How to do social media debates

I don't know anyone more competitive than I am in trying to win an argument. I am not the sharpest knife in the drawer, but I love to dwell deeply into the issues of our time knowing that to believe in God has political as well as theological ramifications.
That said, for any argument to persuade those who see things differently, as well as to have any hope of convincing me when I am in the wrong, these essentials must come into play:

No demonizing allowed.
You or I may be wrong, but we are equally human, equally loved, equally God's children, seeing some things more clearly than others and vice-versa, but in the main, we are in the dark, not seeing it all.
No one is ever dead wrong, except in issues where one's position means that someone other than he is denigrated to being something less than human, someone less to be loved and cared for than anyone else.

No name calling.
It doesn't help. It derails the debate. It undermines the civility it takes to find the truth let alone live it.

If the debate is political, suspicions do creep in, if the party or politician one sides with can never be wrong. It is likely that person has lost their capacity for critical thinking, which true wisdom relies on.
We are all prone to coming under the spell of influential people, and when we do the likelihood of being objective, let alone discerning goes out the window. Our positions become parroted ones rather than those originating in us.
It helps to approach every person in leadership as though a member of their loyal opposition. Loyal when in your opinion the other is right and opposed when in your opinion the other is wrong.
It helps to keep populists and dictators in check and ensures the compasses we rely on aren't skewed by bigger than life personalities. Whatever our rank and status in life, we are no more nor any less than brothers and sisters of one another.

Lastly, rely on the two Hs. - Humour and Humility.

Humour because it makes for laughter when we might otherwise strike back and bends even the most rigid among us into shapes that are lucid, humane and enchanting.
Humility because to walk humbly and to think humbly is the most infectious human characteristic there is.

Humility brings perspective where the dividing line becomes something other than us or them, right or left, right or wrong, which slowly dissipates in this ocean depth reality that we are all in this together; that somehow we must learn to get along in a boat where everyone is needed and everyone matters.

Everyone.